# When owners don’t write review **URL:** \ **Category:** Sitter Questions, Advice & Chat\ **Created:** [19 June 2022 19:00 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123 "2022-06-19T19:00:33Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![SoloTraveler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f14d63/32.png) [@SoloTraveler](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/SoloTraveler)\ **Post date:** [19 June 2022 19:00 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/1 "2022-06-19T19:00:33Z")
Question for Sitters- I pride myself on being a great sitter, doing not only what is asked but leaving everything in tip-top condition. I have asked the owner repeatedly (nicely) of a recent sit for a review to no avail. (I have not given them one and won’t until they go first, which is my standard procedure.) It was a great sit! What do you do when this happens? It’s never happened before to me and I see they have reviewed their first sitter, but not me or the one right before me, and the one before me has excellent reviews from other owners, like I do. This is very disappointing. ---
**Author:** ![mars](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex013/user_avatar/forum.trustedhousesitters.com/mars/32/3359_2.png) [@mars](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/mars)\ **Post date:** [19 June 2022 20:02 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/2 "2022-06-19T20:02:37Z")
@SoloTraveler , This is the issue that first brought me to the forum. I did a search but can’t find the discussion, maybe it was so old it’s been removed. I had done the best job I possibly could for these HO and despite numerous requests, they were not leaving me a review. I was really upset, as I had bent over backwards for them. I received guidance from @Angela_L . She told me that people sometimes get busy with work and life and to give it a chance, that she once had HO leave her a review six weeks after the sit! So, I decided to give it more time and after 12 days, they left me a great review. So my advice is after three gentle reminders a few days apart, sit tight and wait. Oh, and like your HO, when I took another look at my HO’s listing, I noticed they had had several sitters they had failed to review. It didn’t seem important to them. I faulted myself for not taking note before I accepted the sit, so I was doubly worried I’d end up with no review. Fortunately, it all worked out. But from that experience, I now take note of a HO’s “review record.” If I feel there is a chance I won’t get a review or won’t get any kind of substantial review, I don’t apply. ---
**Author:** ![Kelownagurl](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex013/user_avatar/forum.trustedhousesitters.com/kelownagurl/32/1707_2.png) [@Kelownagurl](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/Kelownagurl)\ **Post date:** [19 June 2022 20:07 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/3 "2022-06-19T20:07:12Z")
We’ve never had a problem getting a review but we always do our review (aka feedback) immediately after the sit so maybe that encourages the home owner to do one as well? I’m curious though - do you have a particular reason for not giving a review until they do? Have you considered that perhaps they have the same policy? Or maybe they are worried about why you won’t give a review first so they are hesitant to give one as well? I think if I was a home owner and a sitter informed me that they would not do a review until I had done one first, I’d suddenly start to wonder why, and it might make me nervous about giving one. Just a thought. ---
**Author:** ![Snowbird](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex013/user_avatar/forum.trustedhousesitters.com/snowbird/32/37379_2.png) [@Snowbird](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/Snowbird)\ **Post date:** [19 June 2022 20:21 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/4 "2022-06-19T20:21:43Z")
Hi @mars. I don’t think your post would have been removed. I clicked on your username, looked for the date you joined, clicked on your name there and it brought up every post you’ve done, back to your join date. I tried the same with mine and it was similar. Total transparency, for sure. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Lauraa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f475e1/32.png) [@Lauraa](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/Lauraa)\ **Post date:** [19 June 2022 21:11 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/6 "2022-06-19T21:11:10Z")
Last year I sat for a few weeks and all went fine, and when I asked for a review there was a long pause and then, finally, the man said he didn’t ‘believe in’ reviewing things online and it was nothing personal about me. I explained what we all know and he flatly refused. I was already engaged to return to the house a couple of months later, and rather than cancel I went ahead because the location was so interesting to me. Perhaps he chose me as a sitter without reading my profile or reviews? Maybe he’d have engaged anyone? ---
**Author:** ![Snowbird](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex013/user_avatar/forum.trustedhousesitters.com/snowbird/32/37379_2.png) [@Snowbird](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/Snowbird)\ **Post date:** [19 June 2022 21:35 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/7 "2022-06-19T21:35:00Z")
@Lauraa that’s so sad to hear, and you’ve been so respectful in the way you’ve retold the details here. I certainly would have provided feedback for the second sit, without asking. I would have included that I was disappointed to hear his position but nevertheless realize that the homeowner must have indirectly given me a positive review by having me return for a sit. 😉 There are always creative and respectful ways of making a fair statement. That owner should share his position on that with a sitter **before** they accept, in my opinion, but I doubt he does. Congratulations on taking the higher road. 👏 ---
**Author:** ![Lauraa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f475e1/32.png) [@Lauraa](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/Lauraa)\ **Post date:** [19 June 2022 22:03 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/8 "2022-06-19T22:03:48Z")
They’d engaged me for both sits at once, quite a bit in advance. When the date for the second sit was approaching they asked if I was going to do it, realising I was displeased about the refusal to review. I said yes of course I was looking forward to it. I didn’t leave any feedback about them, which I know isn’t right, but I think they left TH anyway. ---
**Author:** ![Colin](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex013/user_avatar/forum.trustedhousesitters.com/colin/32/1940_2.png) [@Colin](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/Colin)\ **Post date:** [20 June 2022 07:26 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/9 "2022-06-20T07:26:19Z")
Hi @SoloTraveler - Why are you so adamant not to leave a review until the home host leaves theirs? I think if you have this rule then you have to respect the fact that you occasionally will not receive one yourself. I am struggling to understand how you can be disappointed with the home host for not leaving you a review whilst at the same time admitting that you are refusing to leave them one? Maybe the home host has the same ’ you go first’ rule - in this case you are now in a stalemate situation and neither of you will have any chance of getting a review. I would say leave your review. If you get one in return, great. If you don’t, then at least you know that you have done the right thing 😀 ---
**Author:** ![Gina](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/58956e/32.png) [@Gina](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/Gina)\ **Post date:** [20 June 2022 10:45 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/10 "2022-06-20T10:45:39Z")
If you have other reviews i wouldnt worry too much. We missed one review, obviously not because the HO was unhappy as they asked us back but i think they just have super busy lives & i noticed they dont usually review. All had gone well on the sit, we liked the HOs, understand their circumstance & didnt take it personally. They did however reply nicely to our feedback for them. We have had other HOs maybe take a week or two before we have their feedback. People can be busy and have various things that demand their attention. I like to do our reviews within a few days of leaving the sit and do feel that a HO is more likely to respond when you have reviewed them. They could be waiting for your review first. ---
**Author:** ![Kelownagurl](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex013/user_avatar/forum.trustedhousesitters.com/kelownagurl/32/1707_2.png) [@Kelownagurl](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/Kelownagurl)\ **Post date:** [20 June 2022 14:10 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/12 "2022-06-20T14:10:49Z")
> [@Gina](#): > > We missed one review, obviously not because the HO was unhappy as they asked us back but i think they just have super busy lives & i noticed they dont usually review. This is interesting and has made me think that in future, I should make sure HO’s generally leave reviews when we apply for sits. If they don’t, I may ask about it in the application process. I’m not sure I want to do a sit where it’s unlikely we’d get a review. ---
**Author:** ![PetSitterBug](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex013/user_avatar/forum.trustedhousesitters.com/petsitterbug/32/1375_2.png) [@PetSitterBug](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/PetSitterBug)\ **Post date:** [20 June 2022 18:02 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/13 "2022-06-20T18:02:12Z")
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Following each sit, I request a review from the HO, including a personalized note in which I mention that I will be providing my feedback shortly. I don’t wait until the HO posts their review, I go ahead and post my feedback when ready. ---
**Author:** ![Crookie](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex013/user_avatar/forum.trustedhousesitters.com/crookie/32/17987_2.png) [@Crookie](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/Crookie)\ **Post date:** [21 June 2022 08:20 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/14 "2022-06-21T08:20:53Z")
I do the same thing @PetSitterBug ---
**Author:** ![JudithRogers](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex013/user_avatar/forum.trustedhousesitters.com/judithrogers/32/7989_2.png) [@JudithRogers](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/JudithRogers)\ **Post date:** [22 June 2022 13:10 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/15 "2022-06-22T13:10:19Z")
Hello - even though I am a HO I am going to add a comment. I tried to leave a review for a sitter recently and found it super hard to know where to do this. I also did receive any reminder with the review link to be able to do this. Not sure if this is intended but I wonder if other HOs might find it tricky to find where to do this. I know when I usually do anything in the digital space then i get sent a link to leave a review once the transaction completed. Be assured i did eventually find where to do this and did leave a review. ---
**Author:** ![LTD](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex013/user_avatar/forum.trustedhousesitters.com/ltd/32/1979_2.png) [@LTD](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/LTD)\ **Post date:** [22 June 2022 14:34 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/16 "2022-06-22T14:34:29Z")
I think there is a thread on how 'user friendly the process is to leave a review and feedback … also that the two are named differently , giving rise to perhaps, different expectations. ---
**Author:** ![JudithRogers](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex013/user_avatar/forum.trustedhousesitters.com/judithrogers/32/7989_2.png) [@JudithRogers](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/JudithRogers)\ **Post date:** [22 June 2022 16:55 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/17 "2022-06-22T16:55:00Z")
I am bringing this here though to answer one of the questions about why HOs don’t leave reviews. This should not be taken in isolation but it might be an explanation. ---
**Author:** ![SoloTraveler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f14d63/32.png) [@SoloTraveler](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/SoloTraveler)\ **Post date:** [22 June 2022 17:14 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/18 "2022-06-22T17:14:40Z")
Thank you for weighing in! It’s helpful to hear everyone’s comments. ---
**Author:** ![SoloTraveler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f14d63/32.png) [@SoloTraveler](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/SoloTraveler)\ **Post date:** [22 June 2022 17:17 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/19 "2022-06-22T17:17:09Z")
I didn’t mean to appear adamant about not leaving a review first, in fact I went ahead and left a nice, thorough one (lots of details) for the sit. The HO has said more than once that they will leave a review but haven’t yet so it’s just rather frustrating. Reviews are everything to a sitter! ---
**Author:** ![MsKate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3da27b/32.png) [@MsKate](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/MsKate)\ **Post date:** [22 June 2022 17:42 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/20 "2022-06-22T17:42:40Z")
Go ahead and leave a review. Not only is the review process for the sitter and homeowners, it’s for our fellow members. ---
**Author:** ![Catgoddess\_99](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex013/user_avatar/forum.trustedhousesitters.com/catgoddess_99/32/6233_2.png) [@Catgoddess\_99](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/Catgoddess_99)\ **Post date:** [24 June 2022 23:10 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/21 "2022-06-24T23:10:58Z")
To make you feel better I did a sit this past holiday season, same scenario, went overboard and left HO a thank you note and flowers. I requested a review and no response despite her thanking me profusely by text. Anyway, she finally left me a 5 star review in May. She’s a college professor and sometimes life gets in the way and they obviously have other priorities. So, sit back and just give it a chance. ---
**Author:** ![Kelownagurl](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex013/user_avatar/forum.trustedhousesitters.com/kelownagurl/32/1707_2.png) [@Kelownagurl](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/u/Kelownagurl)\ **Post date:** [25 June 2022 00:44 UTC](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123/22 "2022-06-25T00:44:02Z")
I always write our review of the home owner before the sit ends so I can cut and paste it into THS the very next day. I tend to be busy the few days after a sit, either travelling or starting another sit, so I like to have it already done while things are calm and fresh in my head. [Next page](https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/when-owners-don-t-write-review/17123.md?page=2)