Even though anyone can write a reference, I still think you can learn a lot about someone from what their friends or family have said, as well as how they sail it
.
I certainly would not ask for a reference from someone who disliked me, but my five
initial references were varied and distinct. They were all written before they could see my profile (yeah, sure, I could’ve sent to them myself, but PLEASE!) and I found it interesting that even tho they were all different, they portrayed the same person, in different ways, and aligned with my own description of myself.
Honestly, it was nice for ME to read them even if no one else did! ![]()
Bottom line: always talk and FaceTime with a person and trust your judgement.