@Lassie Kudos for calling it what it is.
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I differ there. I do agree that most people donāt like too many details and prefer short, clear reviews but I think some details help the reader decide whether whatās being described is important for them or not and I think exaggerations are more often shown in the choice of adjectives like āfilthyā or extreme, valorative terms.
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I think he freely admits that his approach is entirely self-serving. He will probably defend it forever.
Perhaps I wasnāt clear. Please clarify what I posted thatās confusing to you and Iāll do my best to clarify it in a way that you can understand.
I wasnāt talking about the review, I was talking about how the sitter going hugely in-depth about her BF. When people put loads of detail into a story, it ācanā mean they are over exaggerating / fibbingā¦ for example, she may have planned to end the sit early much earlier than the told the HO. I only say that given the lack of respect she gave the HO in every other way.
wonāt speak for @ontheroadagain or @lassie but I will say that I understand your approach. After all, you have outlined it many, many times on many, many threads. But I do not agree with your approach (which would mean that I understand AND share your approach). I realize that you havenāt been a THS member for long (the first of your 2 sits was just this past August) and you have been a member of this community forum for even less time (not quite 2 months). But surely you must acknowledge that you havenāt seemed to persuade many (if any) to share your point of view.
Oh, also letās be clear: I am not confused about anything so no need for a condescending offer to explain it to me.
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Iām not looking to persuade anyone. Iām simply sharing my experience and my strategy for anyone who may be interested. Clearly my procedure of declining to leave a deserved negative review is rampant among the THS membership. Iām no martyr.
My offer to clarify further due to confusion was directed at the member who stated they were confused, that was not you.
It is your repetition that puzzles. As though you think we can be convinced if you just say it over and over.
And I have had the displeasure of you offering to explain things to me previously.
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It may seem like Iām trying to convince people to do things my way but Iām not. I donāt need to. They already are. Well, many of them. Thatās the problem. But I offer a solution on my latest thread in the Feedback section. It would largely eliminate the problem, and I for one would not hesitate to leave a deserved negative review if this feature was put in place.
Why am I thinking of this quote often (mis)attributed to Einstein ā¦
the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results
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I say that all the time!
Such an enigma
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Am I really so different from you, Maggie? I only post my opinion when either someone quotes me or questions me; or a topic arises where I think my input may be useful.
Isnāt that what you and most everyone else does on this forum and others like it? We try to assist others, by explaining what works for us and what we think may also work for them.
We are very different in our approach.
I meant similar in how we like to share our approach with others.
Nope. Donāt think so. I am aware that I am here more to learn (especially when I was new to both THS and this forum) than to teach and I tend to do some research before I post. I notice that you have had to backtrack on a few topics after other forum members pointed out an incorrect assumption. āWhat I meant wasā¦ā seems to be an opener I have seen from you more than once. I shall give you credit for stick-to-it-iveness though.
I am unsure why you became āunblockedā on my settings but back you go now. Perhaps it expired or lapsed when I reinstalled.
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Thanks for clarifying.
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You need to think twice because from my experience of leaving a bad and honest review it directly impacts the number of sitters who apply for the next sit. The sitter I had left me a scathing review. Luckily I was able to respond to it but the damage was IMO done. THS strongly encouraged me to leave an honest review so I did. In hindsight I wish I hadnāt.
Was any part of the sitterās scathing review justifiied? If not, what do you think prompted such an undeserved scathing negative review? Did it come as a complete surprise?
If the sit has gone poorly and you anticipate a negative review than you are leaving yourself unprotected by leaving a positive review. Most readers will understandably be skeptical of your reply to the negative review you received if you only have good things to say about the other member in your initial review. Then again, they may have good reason to be skeptical, in which case this isnāt about reviews, itās about you fixing whatās broken.