Any other sitters becoming very particular with sits due to burnout?

I just completed my first few long sits and have done them more or less back to back. In this process I’ve realized I do need a break in-between them that is equal to the duration of the sit. (Ie if it was a month sit, take a month off at least!) I think I am feeling some kind of burnout for sure, along with the fact that every sit has had some learning points. I did have one or two bad sits as well, situations I was put in that I really had no way of ascertaining beforehand, and which I can’t believe a HO would lure someone into. So yes, some trust gets broken there and then you become very picky…but if you’ve had a string of good sits you feel a more positive lean on the future of sitting! All of this can probably be solved with better systems design on the platform’s end, in all the ways that get discussed in these forums. I have talked to some HOs lately that have mentioned they’ve had more sitter cancellations than ever before…perhaps burnout is hitting many, or sitters are realizing they actually need breaks and are taking them. The mood tends to fluctuate! If you’re feeling burnt out maybe just take a few months off :slight_smile:

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Thanks for sharing your advice and travel site! It’s remarkable how you’ve documented your travels and completed 75 sits over the years! You clearly have figured the nomadic lifestyle out.

Wishing you all the best on all your future travels!!!

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hello @Colin
you have a lot of overlapping sits. Do you and your partner divide and concur ? Or am I reading your data incorrectly? (which wouldn’t be the first time btw) :upside_down_face:

Yes, the packing and traveling from place to place and getting settled in, it does take so much away from the sitting experience. I too started sitting in mid 2023 and early on had many 1-3 day sits and realized that short sits aren’t worth it, for me.

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@Gabba , Yes we often split up particularly at the start and end of sits, it save us cash on hotels, energy on not having to travel sit - hotel -sit, and it allows us the opportunity to give the home hosts total flexibility on their departure and arrival times. Win-Win-Win :blush:

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Hi @Hallt64 !

I honestly set out on my nomadic journey without having the best planned out approach, which mostly explains my burnout.

During my nomadic journey I’ve encountered hosts with last minute sits, family members, and close friends in their 20s and 30s that all had to deal with a sudden and unexpected life changing medical situation. It has made me question many things and implement an emergency plan with my emergency contacts, however apart of me feels better and healthier than some of my emergency contacts.

Still, a major health condition would greatly impact my nomadic journey and force me to settle down closer to my family.

I’m fully with you on this. I rarely do short sits these days as by the time I’ve worked out where the pet food is, how to work the TV, where the local supermarket is etc etc, it’s pretty much time to get packing and go!

The only time I’d ever consider a short sit is if I’ve already done a longer one for that particular HO and I’ve loved it AND it’s not too far to travel to.

Other than that, longer terms sits for me are where it’s at.

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That’s a great strategy!

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Great work :grin:. Do you have an account each on THS and do you use other housesitter sites?

@Gabba
We used Aussie & Kiwi house sitters when we visited those countries last year but only use THS for finding sits in the UK & Europe. We have an account each and also pick up the occasional sit from Facebook groups.

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Why don’t you like sits where the hosts have more than 3 reviews?
Just curious, as I have (generally) found that the more people have used THS, the better hosts they are.

Edit: I think I misunderstood: You said “the more no reviews” they have… So I think you’re referring to missing reviews from past sitters?
If that’s what you meant, I definitely agree!

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It sure feels like the sitting landscape has changed in the last year or two - and I put that down to TH’s fairly aggressive expansion bringing in a different type of homeowner and sitter. My response to all that has been to get a bit harder-nosed about what I’ll even consider: no or inadequate photos, or terse description? Forget it. Slow to respond? No thanks.

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I just wanted to say thank you @themavericksitter for your post. It has allowed me to acknowledge my own feelings of burnout, which isn’t something I’ve done before.

I have been house sitting full time for almost 2 years, and this summer has been busy, I’ve stayed in 11 different places in the last few months. I have a long sit (2 months) in mid-September so am really looking forward to being settled for a while, but another shorter one (2 weeks) before then, and have been feeling quite anxious about travelling again, becoming familiar with another new environment, new routine etc. while doing my best to reassure the home owners and do my best by them. It becomes too much after a while and I am feeling overwhelmed. What is keeping me going is knowing I have a longer sit shortly so I just need to get through the next couple of weeks.

Anyway, thanks for allowing me to vent. House sitting is amazing, but it’s also not easy, not always relaxing and can take its toll if you have a busy schedule and are travelling a lot. Thank you for making me feel less alone in this!

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@ChristieC I feel the same way, it was brilliant for a while but everything changes. I used to feel.appreciated, but now I’m often made to feel more like a servant :unamused:

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@KC1102 Thank you for such a thoughtful response!

Sitting for over a decade is remarkable, especially with little to no issues or ever a sense of feeling a bit burned out. As you have mentioned you were very particular and showed great discernment from the start, which is what all the responses from this thread how confirmed is the way to go about sitting long term, which is my goal.

I like that you mentioned prioritizing space over location, as I have confirmed sits in some greats cities, and dealt with a few cramped accusations.

Again, thank you for sharing your thoughts!

@ChristieC The friend that referred me to this site has the same sentiment as you, but didn’t offer any advice on why or how they’ve had to be more particular. They’re semi-retired and used to rant and rave about sitting for over half of the year (every year) and now they only keep their account to complete 1-3 sits a year. I honestly believe that my burnout stems from being new to the site and sitting full-time in this changing landscape.

@strawberryjen Thank you and very one else that hasn’t shamed me for mentioning that I’m feeling a bit of burnout or called me a whiner. I really love that this thread has been so positive and empowering.

I recently completed my first long sit (almost 3 months) and it has been one of my best sits so far. Wishing you all the best with your long sit and THS journey!

Sitting on THS is new to many and comes with different expectations, so hearing that I’m not alone and getting valuable advice from other sitters on how they go about sitting full-time is beyond helpful. Also, the reassurance that it’s fine to be particular, picky, discerning, etc. when confirming sits is well needed. I will definitely be taking a break over the holidays and will return to sitting in early 2025, with a much different approach.

Again, thank you for your input!

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@Themavericksitter
Thank you for your kind comment and glad my response was helpful. For me, having more spacious accommodations is important especially since we tend to do longer sits. I get kind of antsy when I feel cramped, and that I am traveling with another person can exacerbate that. Everyone has their preferences and as long as people figure them out and honor them, I think most of their sits will be largely positive experiences.

If you ever have any questions, feel free to message me. Happy to share my two cents.

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Hi @kimshady !

Thank you for sharing your experience! It seems like we both enjoy traveling and caring for pets, but learned over the course of a year that we needed a break for some self care.

Wishing you all the best on your journey!

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No shame allowed here! I came back on these forums last week after a long break, as I was feeling a bit low about house sitting and moving around so much. Yours was one of the first posts I read which I considered ‘meant to be’. I may even have had a wee cry at the relief at seeing someone else verbalise how I’d been feeling!

So glad to read your first long sit went well! I had a sit of 6 months last year, which is a real rarity and I was very grateful for it. It allowed me to make connections in the area and it really felt like home, so moving around so much afterwards made me crave that stability again. I am absolutely more discerning about the sits I choose than I was previously.

I’m glad to hear you’re listening to what you need and taking a well-deserved break over the holidays :heart:

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