How long is it acceptable to leave a pet alone?

I have just spent time applying for a sit where the homeowner who did not initially state this in her original post has told me that her pet cannot be left alone at all and that I should not consider the sit as a holiday so therefore I was being unreasonable in hoping to get in 3-4 few hours sightseeing and shopping perhaps several times a week on a sit.

Naturally I passed and this owner has decided to get a couple in to sit so someone can be with her pooch at all times . I guess this will work for her but I was left uninspired by this persons disregard for the sitters human needs and her recognition of the valuable services a sitter provides at no actual cost .

I have gathered over 40 now 5 star reviews working two different agencies and would generally try to have a few days out a week with 3-4 hours away from the pet However in some cases especially without a car and being dependent on public transport timetables the homeowners have been perfectly reasonable and understanding if time away for the pet has run to 5 or 6 hours

I am always mindful of the pets being home alone while I’m out and depending on the personality of the pet I make adjustments and will sometimes catch expensive taxis and ubers to get home earlier .I also make it a policy only to work for reasonable people properly centred in their humanity who can consider a sitters humanity and needs as every bit as important and valid to be considered as their pets and who recognize that a sitter is actually providing their valuable services without which homeowners could not take their trips away .for no actually monetary cost

What do other sitters think ?

I chose to work for poeple who

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A homeowner can make any rules they want in regard to their pet, it’s up to a sitter as to whether those terms are acceptable or not. I suspect this host will have a difficult time filling their sit given those restrictions and perhaps they will re-evaluate what they are expecting of a sitter and while not acknowledging they are completely unreasonable, they may understand the need to adjust in order to obtain free pet care.

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Yes Henry I agree with your summation

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Well it’s dependent on finding a match between sitter and HO. On a recent sit we were mostly at home with the dogs or walking with them or taking them with us to visit an elderly uncle (the purpose of our visit to the location) I think we left them alone on two occasions only. Our sits aren’t holidays, we’re not tourists, we’re visiting nearby family… and so long as the HO is happy for them to go where we go (we ask specifically) when we’re out and about it’s a great match.
I think it’s harder maybe to find stay at home sitters but lots of sitters who simply want a change of home scene or wfh won’t find a sit like this too onerous.

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@wendywindow

What did the owner state in the original post for the length of time the dog can be left ? Did they originally state up to 4 hours in the responsibility section and later told you that that the dog can never be left at all ? If that’s the case I can see why it felt like a bit of a bait-and-switch—that’s frustrating.

On the bright side, it’s really good you found out before confirming the sit. Now you’re free to look for something that’s a much better fit for you.

On the topic of dogs that can never be left alone there’s a subtle difference between dogs that can come everywhere with you and those who can’t be taken everywhere and also can’t be left alone . Some sitters enjoy sits where the dog can come along with them wherever they go.

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Perfectly said but with the addition that this should be disclosed in the original listing to save time.

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That’s true. But that said, it’s also true that the time pets can be left is now a compulsory part of the listing so there must have been a misrepresentation of requirements, which apart from making applicants waste their time is a big red flag, paired with the “you should not consider this as a holiday” entitled tone.

@wendywindow, you have dodged a bullet.

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Yes this was the conclusion I came to that they needed a sitter with a car who could take the dog with them wherever they went and she came to the conclusion she would look for a couple so one of them could be with the dog at all times

.However I have to say with the newly worded post the HO put up after had she had spoken with me it seemed so demanding and unreasonable and OTT and telliing me the job was not a holiday didnt exactly inspire me . I figured what she required is actually a paid pet nanny .Definately not the right fit for me

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Skip whatever listings/hosts you consider unreasonable. To me, those aren’t worth the bother.

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Curious if she is a new host or has reviews visible. The fact that she called it a job says she has no idea what THS is about. I saw a sit that looked good to me but it said pet can only be left alone for two hours. I didn’t apply because it did not seem like a fair exchange to me. Does the sit you saw really has the host never leaving the dog home alone, I doubt it.

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It’s up to them, I think it’s totally acceptable for an HO to ask for their pet to never be left alone, as long as they realise there will only be a tiny amount of THS sitters who will accept those needs (if any, in their particular area).

It’s not a win-win scenario for us personally, we like a cafe, or a pub meal, or a short outing.

We love spending loads our time with pets, but we’ve only done 1 sit where the pet could be left for 2hrs, two sits where the pets could be left for 3hrs, but usually we stick to ones where the pets can be left for a minimum of 4 hours. That’s the sweet spot for us.

What you are talking about is a little too gimme-gimme-gimme in my eyes, and we wouldn’t sit for anyone that expected me and my partner to split up to do shopping etc, it’s just not us, we sit together, we walk dogs together, we also do the shopping together, unless it’s a little corner shop, that’s just us, and we like the way we are. But the HO can ask for what they want, it’s their pet, their needs.

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I agree ‘You should not regard this as a holiday’ is something a HO might say to a sitter entering a paid employment contract

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It sounded like the Home Owner was totally besotted with her pet and took him everywhere with her and doted on him you know like in the movies where besotted pet owners leave their million dollar fortunes to their dogs or cats It was that sort of OTT vibe and ridiculousness I personally have no time for

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I wonder if some HOs using the arrival/departure times feature realize they are limiting applications from good sitters. I’m finding that some think it refers to THEIR arrival/departure times, and then you talk to them and they’re far more flexible than that. Especially related to cats, of course.

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First of all, this isn’t “work” or a “job. It’s an exchange. So if listing doesn’t appeal to you, and/or you don’t think the exchange is fair or reasonable, there is no point in arguing. Just don’t apply. In the latest version the amount of time the pet can be left alone can’t be left blank. Do not apply to listings that don’t appeal to you. Do not accept a sit without you applied for without a chat to confirm the conditions and responsbilities.

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Hi Wendy, I do not apply for any sits that say a pet can only be left two hours or less.
Most owners arer lovely but you do get the odd one that seem to treat you as if you are some upaid slave, and lower than their paid for cleaner and gardener etc. To say you should not consider it as a holiday rather impliers that you are thought of as an unpaid slave. I consider all m y sits as holidays, although some have been more of a chore than a holiday. I do frequently take any dogs out with me all day, especially if in scenic locations like coast paths or moorland etc. There are times however where I like to explore on my own, especially if looking around intersting craft centres, art galleries and small gift shops etc. And if I need to go to a supermarket where you cannot take dogs I do not want to be rushing back, especially if in or near an interesting old town that would be nice to explore. But since TH introduced the section, where owners say how long a pet can be left, I have seen more saying a max. of two hours and they all seem to say nil applicants. Definitely a couple I would have applied for, if not for this two hour or less restriction listed.

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Actually as i stated in my post the owner was not forthcoming in her original post about what her expectations were about not leaving the pet alone otherwise I would not have applied

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A good point I usually let homeowners know because I depend on public transport to get from A-B my usual ‘om ‘at the end of a sit is to leave their home by noon if possible . If they ar enot getting back until super late I might be able to stretch it out til 2.00pm or 3pm but thats rare and I have found HOs to be super flexible and understanding .

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Interesting feedback thankyou I agree the 4 hour minimum is what I look for in assessing the suitability of a sit.

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Yes Visit it makes me wonder if the home owners themselves NEVER go out at all leaving their dog alone for more than 2 hours ? Sounds like a very restrictive lifestyle if so

I agree the opportunity to do a bit of sight seeing and explore and experience the neighbourhood you are staying in is an integral part of what makes unpaid housesitting
viable for a sitter

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