Hey guys! So I’m looking for advice on how to handle a situation.
I’ve been dealing with a dental issue for the past couple of months. I finally found a good dentist I trust that’s about 5h away from where I’m sitting.
I agreed to this sit about 2 months before the starting date. Was in constant communication with HO and everything was great.
About 2 weeks prior to the sit I had really bad toothache and had to get to the dentist. She did a treatment, but the situation wasn’t fully resolved and I would be in observation.
I told the HO I wanted to cancel the sit, bcs I was in a lot of pain, and didn’t know when I had to see the dentist again (timing was uncertain, it could be between 2 weeks and 3 months, it all depended on the evolution of my issue).
HO freaked out - said she had flights, hotel and everything booked in Europe. Said she wouldn’t find someone, especially bcs it was a lengthy sit. She said I had already committed to this.
I started feeling better and decided to go on with it. But, with the expectation that I may have to leave for a couple days if I needed to see the dentist.
I’m 2 weeks into the sit and my tooth is giving me trouble . The dentist said I need a cone beam scan, and then to go see her.
I don’t feel comfortable continuing the sit, as I may need to see the dentist more than once and I don’t want to be traveling 5h back and forth. Also bcs of the travel expense on top of having to pay for my treatment.
If I knew it was just going to be one dentist appointment, then I could just go and come back. But treatment would depend on whatever comes up on the scan, and I may need more than one dentist visit.
I feel more comfortable leaving the sit, and hope the HO find someone else. But of course, from HO perspective, this will be very stressful.
I haven’t told the HO, but I wanted to post here first to see if you guys have any other ideas and/or advice on how I could handle the situation.
Also,
- Would asking HO to help with travel costs in case I continue with the sit be reasonable?
- How much notice should I give? I’m thinking I could hold out 1 week. I want to see the dentist ASAP to avoid further complication and don’t want to postpone this any longer.
- Do you guys have any other ideas apart from A) me leaving, B) seeing the dentist, coming back and then seeing what happens, with the expectation that I may leave again (I really don’t want to do this)
Thanks in advance.
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