Maintaining Trust: The Importance of Communication

Hi everyone,

I’m writing to share my first experience using Trusted House Sitters.
I believe it highlights critical areas for improvement, both in communication practices and the platform itself.

I carefully completed the listing process, providing complete detailed instructions in our Welcome Guide, and opened my dates for applications. Several sitters responded, and I selected one after a promising video call. While she lacked reviews, our initial connection felt strong.

However, as the sit approached, my attempts to confirm details were consistently ignored. With three weeks left before the scheduled sit, I contacted her four times on the platform and received no response at all. Then, with the start date just five days away, I sent a final, message stating that due to my non-negotiable commitments, I would have to cancel her sit and arrange for another sitter if I didn’t receive a reply within 24 hours. I also requested assistance from THS support. (In the future, if a sitter does not share a phone number I will not use them.)

It was only after I was forced to cancel that the sitter contacted me, explaining, ‘Hello, I am so sorry I was no longer getting email notifications for messages received in my Trusted House sitters profile and then I received the cancellation notification. I am so sorry! I still had planned to come. Now I know I need to check my profile inbox here regardless of personal email notifications. I am so sorry for the stress. My phone number is 7##-###-#### and I will keep an eye on this inbox.’

The lack of communication forced me to cancel the sit. Then, three hours later, the sitter called, saying she intended to come but hadn’t realized the urgency of checking her THS messages. With renewed hope, I reinvited her, she reapplied, and I accepted. This situation highlighted a system flaw where the cancellation prevented either of us from leaving a review; a loss of valuable feedback. It also raises the question of whether such cancellations unfairly reflect on the homeowner. Regardless of her explanation, consistent and reliable communication is essential in a trust-based service like Trusted House Sitters.

The sitter did arrive, late on the first day. We greeted her and focused on making her feel at home. We had prepared a special dinner, catering to her dietary needs. The fridge and pantry were stocked with her specific foods. We provided gift cards to local, diet-friendly restaurants.

Then, we sat down to review the printed welcome guide. I emphasized that our dog, Lily, a friendly Labradoodle well-known at the dog park (conveniently located behind our new home), needed minimal care: food, water, and a short daily walk. We encouraged her to take advantage of our entire home. We gave her our direct numbers, encouraging her to call or text anytime, and asked for photo updates. I also mentioned our external security cameras.

Despite all this, communication was nonexistent during her sit. Not a single call. No texts. Zero photos. Our only indication of activity came from the doorbell camera when she took Lily for a walk. Even more concerning, at 4 AM, a camera captured her in the backyard, yelling at Lily, who’d been left outside for hours. A few days later Lily’s GPS tracker showed she was stationary for about four hours after a 1.5-hour drive to another city. Though the reason is unclear, this lack of communication and extended immobility is deeply troubling. Thankfully, Lily seems unfazed, but this lack of communication and care is unacceptable.

I will say, she did leave the house cleaner than expected.

This whole experience contrasts sharply with a recent, wonderful sit we did in San Diego through THS. The connection was so strong that they’ve booked us for multiple future sits. It’s also worth noting that we’ve had many successful experiences with private pet sitters in the past, where everything went smoothly, though those services typically cost us around $75 per day, which is a significant difference. In fact, we believe so much in the potential of THS that we’ve even upgraded to the “Premium Combined” subscription, $400 annually, to access all the additional benefits, including cancellation insurance and enhanced support.

My goal here isn’t to assign blame but to advocate for clearer communication expectations on this platform. “Trusted” must include reliable communication. The system also needs a better way to handle cancellations caused by sitter unresponsiveness, allowing for fair reviews.

I hope this detailed account is helpful.
Let’s work together to make THS the best it can be.

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You were new, and your sitter was new, but going with a connection that felt strong is always best, so I understand why you choose her.

A couple of things you may be unaware of, for the future…
We’re sitters, and we try to exchange mobile numbers early on, and as a sit gets closer, we swap to whatsapp, we don’t use THS to message at that point, because we get a lot of emails from THS, marketing, system updates, saved searches etc, and they are all mixed in with important emails from owners, so it’s a pain to sift through our personal inbox (I wish we could opt out of part, but that’s not a thing, unless we want to lose our ability to receive owners messages too). Using whatsapp means we can then send you photo’s that way too.

With photo/updates - Did you actually ask for updates? Owners need to make their sitter fully aware as to how often they want photo’s (if at all). We’re sitters and we naturally ask each time, it’s ourselves that drive that conversation, but that’s just our own personalities. However, the onus is most definitely on the owner to make their expectations clear, it’s not on the sitter, it’s a two way thing.

Hope that helps

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Wow, that sounds really concerning to me. As new sitters we are keen that everything goes well and most importantly pets are well cared for. It seems sometimes there is a delay in receiving messages but when I am applying for a sit I check probably every day or even more often in case I’ve missed a communication. Goes both ways though, waiting awhile for anything from HO reviewing.

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Hi @mocapman , That all sounds really stressful. For future reference , it is a good idea to exchange phone numbers very early in the process ( we include ours on all applications we send out) - Then move away from the THS messaging system ASAP, Whatsapp seems to be the one most widely used.

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@mocapman, sorry to read of your challenging experience.

First, encourage use WhatsApp rather than THS Message after sit is confirmed. As experienced housesitters, we have encountered communication challenges with Pet Parents via THS Message. It seems that many people disable THS notifications. Many Pet Parents have requested/required that we communicate via WhatsApp after sit confirmation. Seems to work well and is so common that we now use a WhatsApp Group (myself/spouse housesitters + one/both Pet Parents) for each housesit - setup well before start date of housesit. Seems neat solution.

Second, encourage use THS Member Services to troubleshoot communication challenges. Faced with a non-communicative housesitter (or pet parent) then THS MS can directly relay a reasonable message.

Third, set clear communication expectations. Before each sit, we periodically check-in with Pet Parents to confirm that we’re looking forward to see them and ensuring all ok. Simple comms. During video call, a pet parent could reasonably request that housesitter check-in on an agreed reasonable basis before housesit. During housesit itself, pet parent and housesitter can agree frequency and nature of communication. There seems no “right” frequency - some pet parents request daily photos and some pet parents want to disconnect during their trip and request no-comms-is-good-news. Key is agreed expectations.

Fourth, potential poor care of pet may be negligent. Suggest review instructions and responsibilities in listing and welcome guide. As appropriate, contact THS MS. Include brief, factual statements - even if language limited to “appeared” - in housesitter review.

Fifth, reflect on demand for your listing. Number and quality of housesitter applicants to a listing seems to vary a great deal. If housesitter is acting unreasonably, even after THS MS involvement, then consider earlier cancellation - especially if you are confident about finding a replacement.

Finally, hat off to you for treating housesitter so well. Leaving specific foods and gift cards is very generous. Not all Pet Parents provide such an appreciative welcome.

Keep smiling. Onwards.

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You contacted her 4 times without response. Then you canceled the sit and immediately heard from her. Wouldn’t she receive the cancellation notice the same way she receives your messages, by the same email address? That would have told me she seems is a bit self absorbed and only takes action when it personally disturbs her wants and needs, the sit. That would have been a red flag for me and I would have kept it canceled. Easy for me to say as I am not a PP but I know it then becomes stressful trying to now get a sitter but you did observe behavior at the sit that was disturbing to you.

If she reapplied and you accepted her the same way as before, on the platform, why can’t she be left a review? I would contact support here and talk to them about it. They may open the review up for you.

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I am generally asked for my phone number when the interview is requested. So they can do it as a phone chat, whatsapp, etc. I usually give my phone and email. Email, in case they want to google meet. You can try that so that you have multiple channels to contact.

I also do not get email notifications when there is something in my inbox. Despite telling THS and being told it is fixed. But I check regularly, especially in order to get the WG. She sounded flaky.

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The best tip I can give you is to be discerning. You as a sitter have seen how you treat homeowners, you have a reference point that sitters should be even with when applying to your sit exactly because of that.

This is not a blame or anything of the sort, its just to say that behaviors have patterns and if you notice a pattern that you yourself wouldn’t take as a sitter towards a house sit, don’t allow it from applicants. We have learned to do the same as we also house sit and need house sitters so this is coming from experience.

If a sitter is unpredictable before showing up to the point that you need smoke signals to get a sign of life, perhaps it’s the universe giving you clear signals to find someone else.

Oh & to second what has been said, whatsapp for the win when it comes to communication. That should be one of the first things exchanged- want to get it in one go? Have the intro video call on whatsapp- boom- number saved.

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Sorry to hear about your experience with lack of communication. I think it is always best to go with your gut and if communication is lacking 3 weeks prior to your sit, probably best to cut ties and move on. A sitter with an upcoming sit should have a way to be notified when a message is received. We use the THS app and I have found this to be very helpful for receiving notifications of new messages. We also give our phone numbers once we have accepted the sit as we found this is typically better than relying on the THS site.

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As a sitter, i always encourage homeowners to do a whatsapp video call to get to now each other. When this then leads to a confirmed sit, we both have the whatsapp details as an alternative means to communicate. And whatsapp also allows me to call if something goes wrong while travelling towards the sit. Much better in that case than sending a message. But I also always share my flight details and other travel details as soon as they are booked via the THS mailbox. I then contact the home owners about 7 -10 days before the sit via the THS mailbox to confirm that all is still as discussed before. What irritates me a bit about home owners is that i can request a “welcome guide” via THS but sometimes never receive a reply/reaction on that. This also means i have no full name or full address of the home owner. Then i have to ask that. THS could improve here by making sure such details are automatically shared at a given time before the confirmed sit.

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