@legendvictoria You said it’s a long sit so allowing some visitors while the sitter is there could make sense in this situation ( but only if you are comfortable with it ) . That could mean that the sitter won’t get lonely and will be spending more time at home with your pets .
A video call will help you to discuss is the BF going to be staying the whole time or just occasionally?
If the sitters boyfriend is going to be doing sits with her regularly you could suggest that she changes her profile to sit as a couple and adds his details .
There was another thread where the sitter left the sit early on but left the BF there. He didn’t communicate with the hosts and they had no way of contacting him. https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/a-couple-that-agreed-to-sit-however-she-left-the-sit-halfway
So definitely discuss who will
be taking responsibility for the sit and communicating with you and ask for contact numbers for both of them.
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@legendvictoria I only scanned this thread and your OP brings up more questions for me but essentially…
What are the sitters THS reviews (not character references) but reviews like?
Are there 5 or more high rated to consider so that you feel more comfortable with this change…?
I can tell you I would not like it and would be considering my plan B…
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Just realized it’s 2 weeks till the sit. She hasn’t booked the flight AND now she’s asking to have the bf come with??? Does she have a bunch of great reviews? This whole thing would make me uneasy as a host. I would probably be looking at my plan B.
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Well, I guess you have to weigh a possible plan B against not paying too much attention to this last minute “imposition” and give it a try, with a video chat with both of them and see how you feel. You can decide after the chat.
I understand that she has not mentioned anything about possible travel arrangements and you are only guessing about the possibility of both of them driving. Perhaps you could ask her if she is still interested in going ahead solo.
Do people need to be young to have a boyfriend?
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It makes it more likely to find one…
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As you often say @pietkuip … not necessarily
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On second thoughts, if she said she is no longer interested in doing the sitting on her own, it would probably be even more awkward, unless you are prepared to cancel the sitting. I wouldn’t like to be in your shoes.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
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@Becca Thank you for your feedback. I have asked for an eta on travel but haven’t heard back yet.
I totally agree, it could be beneficial to have a companion during sits. I’ve met with sitters that travel solo and/or as a couple which seems to be determined on a case by case basis and is clear in their listings.
As you said, hosts are ultimately welcoming strangers into their home and need to be comfortable overall.
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@sharondc I have inquired about her eta for securing travel. Hopefully, I’ll hear back soon.
I hate to say it but I really feel backed into a corner. I truly hope that I’m overthinking all of this.
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@Cuttlefish Thank you for your feedback.
It really stinks when plan b & c are asking multiple friends to help you out with pet sitting or pay out of pocket about $2K to hire someone.
I just want to be with my only child when she has her first child. This trip means so much for both of us and I was very clear about the importance of this trip when I originally met with the sitter.
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@Silversitters This just unlocked an entirely new fear 
I will definitely incorporate your suggestions. Thank you!
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@HelloOutThere Thank you for your feedback.
There are not 5 or more high rated reviews that make me feel comfortable with this change.
I’m currently working on back up plans. I just don’t have a good feeling.
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@Newpetlover Thank you for your feedback.
I’ve reached out to the sitter. Hopefully, I’ll hear back soon.
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@Marion You are reading my mind!
In regard to the reviews, they aren’t bad (well except for one) but also there’s nothing there that makes me super confident either.
The sitter had his gf with him when he conveyed his brother n friend are in town. No, i was not comfortable at all.
Sitter did not communicate with me only cos i was informed he lost his phone but he was in touch with his gf via fb n messenger.
All was discussed during our video call. Nothing mentioned the main applicant leaving the sit after 2 weeks. Nothing mentioned brother n a friend visiting.
In short, i felt used n abused. Not to mention, food eaten not replenished, detergent was filled with water, car clutch broke , plants dead, wall was damaged due to sitter reversing into main entrance, wing mirror cracked.
Any more you d like to know?
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Can you not ask THS to cancel this sit and post a new listing? 
There is still time to find someone else.
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This is both disrespectful to you and a potential sign of bad things to come. If she had made this request when you intitally spoke it would have allowed you to decline or accept with other potential sitters in the wings. The fact that she is waiting until the last minute is a bit sketchy. Obviously you are the HO and you can decide whatever you like but I’d be worried if I were in your situation.
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As a HO we had a sitter apply that wanted to have her BF and other friends to our home while we were away. Fortunately, it was in her initial inquiry . Sitter was forthcoming and the sit was not confirmed on either end. We were not particularly comfortable with this arrangement as we have no info on the BF or other individuals. (Seems like it opens up more variables for issues). From now on, I do inquire about this in our initial video chats so there are no surprises.
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