I’m a combined member, and I think rules and guideline “instructions” are minimal for both petparents and sitters. So I know as a homeowner, I get an email reminding me to leave room in my fridge and freezer for the sitters groceries. I know as a petsitter I recieve an email telling me to replace anything I use.
As sitter I’ve always either had access to the Welcome Guide or recieved a homemade guide of some kind. A few times, I’ve asked the HOs to share the guide or used Whatsapp or text – which is my usual for communication once a sit is confirmed, to ask them to send me a guide. So I’ve never been in a situation where I’ve arrived and there was no Welcome Guide or written information.
HOs like sitters are a very diverse group with different approaches. The last sit, the host invited me to use whatever I wanted from her kitchen cabinet, but apologized for not having very much. Some petparents have left written instructions like: “Help yourself. Don’t bother replacing anything!” Others have said it was okay to “use stuff to round out a meal.” Following the guildelines from THS, I just try to replace anything I use or use a significant amount of, especially if I know it’s expensive like maple syrup.
I had a paid sitter who would use my spices, oils, etc, on overnights, but buy her own food. I didn’t actually treat her as well as I treat my guest-sitters. For instance, I have a one bedroom and she would sleep on the pullout. THS sitters are guests and sleep in my bed.
I haven’t had any homeowners treat me “like an employee.” I think this could be because of the way I approach them, and because I am an older person. If I got that vibe in a video chat, I wouldn’t take the sit. Honestly, I think if you approach with the confidence of a person who knows your value as a sitter, they will treat you as an equal. If not, move on.
As a petparent in a competitive area, I decline sitters who don’t have the experience and the knowledge I’m looking for, so if I contact a sitter for a chat, I am interested in that person because I believe they have the skillset and if the chat goes well, I will be lucky to have them. I’m not going to blow that by being condescending. They might take another sit!
I’ve done some compensated pet care and I’ve hired compensated people. I don’t think THS sitters are treated with less respect. I don’t think getting paid means you are more valued. I’m supergrateful to sitters doing this for the exchange and excited to meet people coming to my city for a variety of reasons. You may be overestimating how “professional” petsitters are viewed.