I have just found out how important communication is in our relationships. If I hadn’t, I would have probably walked away from a chance in a life time.
Her goes…… long story……so stay with me, and please just don’t comment about my story, tell your own to prove to all of us, communication can save the day.
We applied and were accepted for a sit in Boca del Toro, Panama. A tiny little island which could only be accessed by owners boat or water taxi. Excited was not the word, pick me of the ceiling. Being long distance sailors, once upon a time, Panama holds a magical essence and was a must visit place for us. Two months on an isolated island with only a dog and chickens for company. Bliss for us probably a nightmare for others. W got everything set up with the pet parent and then started to research and plan. Two months at the sit, then a month of independent travel and if we were lucky a trip through the canal on a sailing boat as line handlers.
A month ago we got a message, please can we set up a zoom meeting. With great anticipation we did but the news was not good. The pet parent had employed an estate manager to over see the work being done. He would be there with us for the two months of the sit. He would be living in the house, but a different part. Lots of other things had change as well. We were devastated, needed time to think so w left it like that until we could figure it out. My husband wrote a long email to the pet parent explaining lots of things. The isolation of the sit was the most appealing part, we like to be alone, we don’t need anyone to cook or clean for us, we can handle a small RIB on our own we are both qualified to high standards, and many more things. We decided to step back because it could become heated and we didn’t want to fall out.
Last week we got an email asking our thoughts. Both parties have had a long time to think and the pet parents attitude was totally different. She was willing to compromise and so were we. Long story short, we are going. Flights booked, inoculations partly done and everyone is happy. The manager is going to stay somewhere else but will be working on the estate during the day. The RIB will be at our disposal for shopping and emergencies, anything else we will use a water taxi. Lots of other things worked out as well.
Happy is not the word. It is definitely a chance of a lifetime but we could have quiet easily let it al boil over and miss it if we hadn’t communicated our worries and concerns.