You are correct! I’m sure everything is fine.
Thanks for listening!
To be honest I think constant notifications for everything probably contributes to the general rise in anxiety in society. Used to be saying “what you don’t know won’t hurt you”
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As someone about to purchase my very first new car, I would personally have conniptions over the mileage added because I drive very little. I do feel your pain, but done is done and if all else is well, chalk it up to experience.
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That’s because I’m giving you different days’ stats. Sorry
This is what trustedhousesitters is all about .
Your pet is cared for at home , doesn’t have to go into kennels which is better for them (and also saves you money ) - in exchange the sitters get to travel and see new locations .
A long house sit of 2–3 months in a rural area during winter will naturally attract a smaller pool of interested and available sitters. You’ll need to consider whether making your car available could make the difference in securing a sitter, or if not offering it might limit your chances.
In future if you continue to offer use of your car - you could decided to set a limit of how many miles you think would be reasonable for sitters to travel during a week based on your location ( the distance to the Nearest town being 36 mile round trip )
If for example you mention local attractions like the ski resort in your listing then sitters will assume that there will be time to visit these so if it’s not practical to visit these during a sit -it’s best not to have them in your listing .
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This is a great place for help. Sometimes certain people, usually the same one(s), ruin the experience for someone simply Asking for help/tips. Don’t let the trolls keep you away, MOST here are very kind and helpful. You can consider “ignoring” the trolls. Do it yourself or asK a moderator for help. You seem kind and are not being unreasonable At all.
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I can understand how you are feeling where you were generous in offering your new car @pcwill55. You probably may not have offered a car had you chosen a completely new sitter rather than ones who have sat for you a number of times. You have obviously built up a relationship with this family and trust them. You have no idea how much tripping they did in the past in your last car (unless you took odometer readings before and after). They may have assumed they could just do what they have been used to doing on their previous sits. Do you know whether they took your dog on any of those outings? If they did, I would not include those days that caused you concern. Do they always leave a full tank of fuel and a very clean car, both inside and out? Are you seeing them on your return? I hope so. I would then raise it in a nice manner that because of the features the car has, you were able to see the distances they had been travelling and were quite surprised by this. You all know each other well and I would hope this conversation goes well.
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This is wholly irrelevant to helping the OP but am very happy with a new word of the day before 8am! Conniptions. Loving that @Cathie and very useful in sitting land. #wordoftheday
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The skiing wasn’t mentioned in my listing. I found out during our first interview that they had done a sit in our area (further south), but still within the tourist attractions. So that was a bit comforting to know they would not be strangers to getting around. I understand they need to run errands for groceries etc. but just about every day? I’m trying to move forward and just let it go because, I truly believe they are good people and the fact that they are willing to come to our rural home for 2+ months reminds me how fortunate we are to have found them. Sorry to have vented and thanks everyone for all your support.
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I agree. I’m pretty sure a lot of the outings are due to boredom. We live in a rural area and it’s winter time so we get snow and cold, but then it can melt and be tolerable. They like to ski and fortunately/unfortunately we live close to a ski resort. No mountains just awesome hills. I get it, but at the same time I feel it’s a little bit disrespectful. I’m trying to just let it go. As the saying goes. “time heals”. Thanks
I do not know if they took our dog with them all the time. However, she is used to coming along with us when we go to town or wherever, but occasionally (although very rarely), we will leave her home. During our initial zoom meeting, they had asked if it was ok to take her with them and we said yes. I do know they took her to the ski resort because they did tell me of an incident that happened that I don’t want to get into. We have only met once in person when we picked them up from the airport. Typically they arrive after we have already left and leave before we return, which is the case this time as well. They are leaving a week before we get home. My one son’s family fills in during those days. I am realizing I am stressing about something that isn’t too serious, but I do appreciate everyone’s input to talk me off the ledge. 
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Thanks, I needed that. You are so kind. I truly feel I’m a good person. The fact I even reached out is even hard for me to believe because typically I don’t complain about too many things, but I am human and can’t always remain calm, right? Thanks for your kind words of encouragement. It’s nice to know there is a place we can go and get advice on this sticky situation. Thanks
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I am on a long trip, couple of months. There is a local bakery at home that has the most amazing offers. They send me an email twice a week about that. Knowing that my thinking would be “damn, I wish I was in home, now I am not getting their double caramel rye cookies”, I have turned the notifications off.
If you dont have a worry about the dog, how about just turning the notifications off. They are spoiling your holiday. If you want to talk about the matter, get home, check how many miles they drove, and ask about it. Or, if you want “proof”, check when they are gone with the car, and then send them a surprise text message with “how is it going, how is the dog”. Then check if you get a reply, when you get a reply, and what is the time stamp of the picture.
Rather than biting your nails in stress, maybe you find a way to accept and still enjoy the end of your holiday.
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