Hi @Badtoby , this has happened to many of us at the beginning. Sorry you’re in this less than ideal situation, but it’s good that you are learning from it. When the HO changes the agreed-upon arrangements and you are not comfortable with them, you have the right to cancel.
There are several topics about questions a sitter should ask the HO before accepting a sit. Take a look at
https://forum.trustedhousesitters.com/t/list-of-questions-from-sitters-to-owners