Concern about THS verification processes and enforcement of their rules

We just had a bad situation with a sitter who was defiantly violating THS’s rules and we are wondering about a few things:

The sitter complained during the walkthrough about the outdoor security cameras. That should have been a clue that something was going to go wrong and it did. I should first note that the cameras are not only disclosed in the place on my profile where THS asks but in 4 other places. The cameras are for security and one would think that if you are not doing something nefarious, you would be happy about them. We have been on the THS platform since 2019 and never had an incident but this one was quite different. Frankly, we have never had an alert to look at the videos but again this one was different!

3 months ago, shortly after we listed this sit, a sitter who had sat for us in the past reached out and asked: “…..would it be ok if my mother and my sister joined me for Christmas and new years?” We said yes but no parties and she replied: “….yes, of course no parties.” We knew from the past that she had family in the area including a brother and aunt so we assumed since she was explicit about two days, Christmas and New Years, that it was just those two days.

We later learned, way to close to when we were leaving, that she meant her mother and now brother would be joining her for the whole time. While we reluctantly accepted this, the second day of their stay our doorbell camera alerted us to suspicious activity as there were people outside, going in, that were joking about “the mansion”. While we had not looked at the cameras prior as we had no reason to be alarmed, we now did and could not even count all of the comings and goings. On the first day alone, there were 52. On both days, it is impossible to tell how many people were in the house at any one time given all of the comings and goings mainly from the garage.

On the second day, when we noticed an issue, we reached out to the sitter stating that having guests without explicit permission is a clear violation of the THS policy and she went on a rant about being watched. She then started purposefully blocking the doorbell camera. We shared all of these videos, including the really strange one of her blocking the doorbell camera, with THS who also reached out to her. She also mainly used the garage to let people in and out and I do not think she noticed the cameras there which are in plain sight!

When we asked her if she could abide by the THS rules going forward during the sit, she said no and wrote: “….never had any issues like this, even though I’ve stayed in houses where I brought guests and there were also outside cameras.” Clearly admitting she has broken THS policies in her words “SO many” times.

When she said she was going to continue to violate the THS policy and have unauthorized guests, we said we were not comfortable with that and asked when she could leave. She said she could leave the following day at noon as we did not want to kick them out on the street. But, she immediately had more guests that day! We reached out to her and asked her to only have the 3 people who we authorized to be in the house but she did not respond so we had to call the police to have them removed.

We learned quite a few lessons during the situation and have quite a few concerns about the THS platform:

  1. The police asked for us to share the sitter’s profile and anything we know about her as a preliminary precaution should we need to file a police report when we get home. They pointed out a few things:
    1. The sitter never shows her full face on the platform. They suggest that we should never allow anyone in our home whose full face we cannot identify on the platform. Frankly, hearing this, I think it should be a requirement on THS to have one full face photo that perhaps is only disclosed when you confirm.
    2. Her profile says that her phone has been verified but the police found it is not registered to a person but instead to a club in Delaware - the sitter claims to be from Brazil. THS says the only way they verify the phone is by calling it to see if the sitter answers. That is not my definition of verification! This is a flaw in the THS system.
    3. The police also pointed out that sitters can google our address and find out exact details of our names even if we do not leave stuff in our house that identifies us - which would be a challenge not to do. But, we have no way of knowing their full name. This is a very one sided deal where the one with the most liability, the homeowner or in other cases the renter, can be fully identified, the but sitter cannot. It should be a requirement of THS that the full name of the sitter is shared when the sit is confirmed.

We did learn that all communication especially about details or when a situation happens need to be on the platform, not via phone or text, so that THS can see them should they need to.

Some other concerns are:

  1. What will be the consequences for this sitter? I think she should be removed from the platform as she put in writing in the platform that she violates the policy all of the time and I provided videos of her doing so including a really concerning one of her purposefully blocking the doorbell camera.
  2. What about reviews? This sitter has made untrue comments both in writing and to the police that she in no way can substantiate. If she leaves those in the review because she is mad and trying to deflect from what she did, will THS ask for substantiation before publishing?

This whole incident is of a huge concern. It is terrible to be 3000 miles away and to have to deal with this which is why I do strongly hope there are consequences for her. While we have been THS members for many years, recommended THS to many friends and mostly had great experiences, this one is unacceptable for many reasons. Not only because of her clear violations of policy and her defiance in the face of that but also because of her clear submission in writing that this is her common practice.

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You need to escalate with THS by filing an official Member Dispute. This sitter absolutely should not be on the site. Member Support will only get you so far (not very far).

I feel like the quality of members has changed dramatically and my husband and I are becoming less trusting of this whole system. I do pretty rigorous vetting before confirming but I always feel weird asking for the sitter’s full name if they don’t offer it. I agree it should be provided given that we basically place our entire lives in a stranger’s hands.

To a large degree though, the onus is on us to verify who we’re handing our homes over to. It confuses me a bit that you didn’t notice their photos didn’t show their face. I wouldn’t have considered a sitter who didn’t have a full profile, including clear photos of themselves. Did you at least have a video call before confirming?

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@VixenValentina ,

Please be aware that Membership Services is actively investigating this case at present.

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I am a sitter and as soon as the sit is confirmed just ask for their last name. If they don’t want to give it to you then this is a red flag. In fact you can ask for it on your initial zoom call or telephone call before you both confirm. It is your home so of course you need to know who will be there. I am always given the PP last name without asking as it is on the WG. You said that this person has sat for you in the past. I assume it was successful the first time so why do you think she had an attitude change. You didn’t mention a pet. Was it just house sitting? I definitely think they should be removed from the platform but we only get one side of the story.

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Use the word “dispute” which escalates with THS. Aboslutely give the sitter a one star review and objectively write what happened in your review. Even if THS takes no action, that will help prevent this person from getting other sits. If the sitter publishes a revenge review that contains information that is pattenly untrue or defamatory, contact THS about having this removed from their platform. Use Trustpilot reviews if THS is not acting to rectify the situation.

It sounds like you’ve already been in touch with the police, and they’ve probably advised to check carefully to make sure nothing is missing.

THS is very slow to remove member profiles and home listings even when violations are exttreme.

Side note: THS adverises the background check on US based sitters and ID check on all others but the background check is at best “secuity theater.” Just like homeowners have to hand over the welcome guide and full address etc after a confirmation, sitters should have to supply a last name to homeowners. Sheesh!

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THS will not screen the review before it’s posted however it’s possible they will remove or modify it given the opened dispute. But you cannot count on that.

Your best defense is giving them a factual, non emotional negative review highlighting all the issues (but try not to make it too long) and reply to the inevitable negative review that you will inevitably receive in the same way, summarizing the issues but not getting defensive which can place you in a negative light. I’m not sure if you can mention that you opened a member dispute and provide the outcome (if in your favor), if so that would give your side of the story more credibility.

Lesson learned. Frankly, I have never had a bad experience so I was too trusting. It was house and pet sitting and we had to scramble from 3000 miles away to find a pet carer for the two cats. We cannot have anyone sit as the police want the house in as close to the state as they left it so we can inspect when we get back. Next time, I will never have a sitter that does not have a full face picture and give me their full name.

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You can always ask, of course. And typically, one has a chat via Whatsapp, which then gives a phone number. You can ask for a link on social media, you can ask them to show ID.

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@Shafofo You wote that “…I always feel weird asking for the sitter’s full name if they don’t offer it…”

We NEVER accept any sitters with whom we do not know their full names, email addresses, and cell phone numbers. This is for ease of communication before and during the sit. And we have a video chat with them to get a feel about them.

Being open (as in sharing your full name) also exposes whether a person is trying to hide something. Wait… a sitter expects to be in my home with my pets and you don’t want me to have your full name? That ain’t going to happen in our house.

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I do not think that my point was clear. The sitter gave us her phone number which THS said was verified. The phone number worked and got through to her both for calls and for texts. But when the police looked it up, it was registered to the Harvard Club of Philadelphia in Delaware. It was not registered to a person. That means that it was not really verified to be her number, just a phone she was using.

I know, I’m now questioning my own process! I do always have their WhatsApp. I think that usually by the time a video chat is done and we’ve agreed to confirm I feel like I’ve just spent an hour talking to an old friend and feel weird asking for a last name. Also the way sitters here respond so harshly to being asked for ID has made me self-conscious about asking. We’ve been lucky so far but I’m going to get comfortable with asking and take any hesitation as a red flag. There’s just too many bad stories these days not to double-down on vetting in both directions.

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I always offer my LinkedIn profile when I apply, showing my full name and headshot. Plus, when we schedule a video chat, I share my phone number and email address, which includes my full name. And my number also is what I use for WhatsApp and Signal.

If we mutually agree on a sit, I also am happy to share my husband’s info in case of emergencies, since I sit solo.

I have nothing to hide from hosts and think it would be odd to have someone sit my pets and home and not know all the above, if I were a host.

And no full face shown in a profile seems sketchy. Mine shows full face, even though I usually dislike being photographed, because I figure hosts would want to see who the sitter actually is.

My video chats with hosts usually are brief — maybe 30 minutes — because I strive to be transparent from the get-go, on my profile, application and onward. I also don’t need to ask a bunch of questions to gauge whether we’re a match or not.

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Sorry this happened to you.. And obviously you were correct to check the 52 camera alerts on the first day (!!!) and glad the police are helping you.

The sitters I’ve used have all had a full picture on their profiles (as do we) but I will definitely consider that going forward. Thanks for sharing and I do hope your home and pets were all unharmed.

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I did a local sit for a now former THS home host. Former because she also had a similar bad experience with a female sitter from Brazil where she had to call the police and have the sitter removed back in June 2025, when the sitter disconnected the disclosed and discussed exterior cameras.

Thanks for the post and sorry you had to go through that….

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@VixenValentina, recommend that you raise a Member Dispute. Specific protocol of THS that collates information & evidence of major policy breaches; assessed facts; makes decisions.

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This seems to get more and more concerning as time goes on. I have now learned her name from the police and that she is a US resident. Her profile on THS says Brazil. I do not think it would be prudent here for me to say what else I have learned but in digging into what THS says they do in background checks, something is going terribly wrong. I have been reading the comments about asking for ID. I see there are many mixed feelings about it but based on what I have learned homeowners really need to do their own thorough vetting of sitters as the vetting from THS is unreliable at best.

(Edited to be line with forum guidelines)

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The name of a sitter on THS is not required to be the name verified by THS as real.

Full name and home address off a passport or current driver’s license are minimum table stakes. Either I make a copy of the documents or write down the information. Less than that by a host is stupid unwise. Nonsense about hosts not properly safeguarding that information fall on deaf ears considering that I’m turning over my home and pets to them.

Sitters don’t like hearing (or reading) this but it is hosts whose burden of trust far out weighs the trust extended by sitters.

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Just wanted to point out that only what a HO chooses to put in the welcome guide is there. I’ve received welcome guides with just a gmail address in the contact section and had to follow up and request the address. I also have done sits where I did not know the HOs last name, it’s not required to be in the welcome guide or provided to the sitter.

Of course, I typically send my full name, phone number and email address after confirming a sit. I don’t see why anyone would have an issue with that - just pointing out that the welcome guide can be sent without last name and address.

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This makes me wonder if it is the same woman. She claims on her profile to be from Brazil but public records show she lives in ______ which now gives me a clue that this might be a pattern - sitting houses in the area to host big get togethers. What really concerns me is that I have provided full evidence to THS with date stamped videos and even public records documents and they have not even suspended her account/profile. I do not think it is appropriate here to put my contact information nor to put her profile but I would love to know if it is the same person that another local homeowner had a problem with and if THS did not remove her.

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@OnTheRoadAgain

I am a sitter and transparent about my name, address, employment and LinkedIn profile at the time that I apply. Because I am from the US my background is checked more than non-US sitters which I find absolutely insulting. My understanding is that home owners aren’t checked at all. Is that your name? Is that your home? When I ring your bell who will I really meet? As a woman traveling alone, that requires a big risk on my part. Both home owners and sitters take a risk. That’s where the (informed and carefully given) trust comes in. Please don’t diminish the stake of sitters while understandably protecting your home and pets. They are not mutually exclusive.

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