If the vibe is off, it’s a no.
That being said and as others have mentioned, there is nothing wrong with either party, creating a sense of urgency in order to make sure that they’re not wasting anyone’s time. I will sometimes use language to indicate that I would like to make sure that we have a video chat within say the next 24 to 48 hours. This is usually because I will often talk to more than one sitter, and I want to make sure that everybody receives a response in an acceptable amount of time. As both HO and HS, I would appreciate it if the other Syed did this for me as well.
And there are ways that you can say that without sounding shady. For instance, “ Are you available within the next day or so to hop onto a video chat? I’m hoping to Confirm a sitter within the next couple of days and want to make sure that I get back to everyone in a timely manner, so as not to block anyone on other opportunities that they may have Available available to them.”
And then, on the other side, if I have reached out to ask if a sitter is interested in taking the sit, I will often say something like “hi we’d really like you to be our sitter for this one and feel that you’d be a good fit based on our conversation. If you’re still interested, please let us know at your earliest convenience so that we can let the other HS that we’ve discussed this particular sit with and permit them to pursue other opportunities?”
From there, if I haven’t heard back within the day (as I’m assuming we’ve just been in contact so you would be expecting to hear from me) I’ll typically either ping again or just move on to the next option and then get a confirmation.
I don’t like to leave people hanging and so there is a bit of urgency, but not desperation.
I also try to be cognisant of the fact that English isn’t everyone’s first language, so sometimes people type things that come across awkward over messages.
There was another post that talked about accessibility and inclusiveness on the app, as it’s basically an English-only platform which is fairly limiting considering this is a global community. I think sometimes we forget that people are coming from a different places and communicating in their non-native language can often times be awkward. For that reason I try to give people the benefit of the doubt but regardless, if the vibe ain’t right, go with your gut!