Dear members of THS,
I’ve been sitting through TrustedHousesitters for a year now and have had some truly heartwarming experiences—snuggly cats, quirky dogs, and wonderful pet parents with whom I’m still friends. I genuinely love the platform and the sense of trust and community it’s built.
But I’m currently navigating a very difficult situation that I wanted to share—both as a cautionary tale and to ask for advice and any local sit leads.
The Sit That Grew (and Grew… and Grew)
I signed on for a long sit in BC, Canada, excited to spend time with the animals and explore a new city. The listing seemed straightforward—just pet and home care. Our Zoom call was also focused on caring for a cohort of indoor/outdoor pets.
The pet parent was eager for me to confirm the sit months ago but declined a virtual tour. At the time, I didn’t think too much of it. She urged me repeatedly to book my flight early, and I took it as a sign of commitment. I reassured her and let her know I’d booked my flight three months before the sit began.
Then as the sit got closer, the tasks started growing…
“Please confirm you’d help with XX.”
“I hope I mentioned it’s very important that you do XX.”
Shortly before the sit began, I was sent a new welcome guide listing extra tasks I hadn’t agreed to—followed by even more additional asks once the sit had already started:
- Watering a large, complex garden daily by hand (which takes over an hour for that task alone)
- Weeding and yard work
- Managing Airbnb guest check-ins and support
- Taking out guests’ dirty laundry and troubleshooting a broken washing machine
- Responding to late-night texts and checking if Airbnb doors are locked
- Handling unannounced visitors and contractors
- Being on-call at all hours for various household issues
Most concerningly, people kept showing up unannounced—including strangers on the property—and my personal phone number was given to Airbnb guests and the pet parent’s friends and family without my knowledge or consent. This created serious safety and privacy concerns.
I’ve tried hard to communicate boundaries respectfully, but the responses became dismissive and increasingly disrespectful. I had hoped we could reach an understanding to allow me to continue supporting the pets—but instead, I received comments like:
“What did you think you were exchanging for free accommodation?”
I certainly didn’t sign up to be Cinderella—living in a basement suite, caring for a three-story house with cobwebs everywhere, while being expected to act as a gardener, maintenance worker, and Airbnb guest liaison 24/7, on top of caring for over five pets.
I’ve since involved THS support, who have been kind, empathetic, and responsive. They’ve asked me to document the situation while they conduct a review.
What I’d Love From This Community:
Advice – If you’ve ever been in a similar situation, how did you handle it? How do you stand your ground without escalating conflict? In hindsight, did I end up here because I tried to avoid conflict the first time she made an unreasonable request?
Sit Recommendations – I’m still in BC and will be wrapping up this sit soon. I had been reassured that it’s well within my right to leave due to the unsafe environment and clear policy violations. I want to make sure that alternative pet care is in place before doing so (though this may not be an issue—I’ve just learned that contractors and cleaners have historically been paid to perform many of the tasks I was asked to do for free).
I’d love to find a short- or medium-term sit in a calmer, more respectful environment where I can focus on pet care (which I genuinely love!). I’ve already paid for my flights and made plans to be here. My visit to BC started off as a nightmare, but I’d hate for it to end that way—wasting my time, money, energy, vacation, and mental health on someone who isn’t really worth all that. I’m tidy, responsible, and take my sitter responsibilities seriously. I can’t apply on the platform directly just yet because my dates are still booked on there.
Support – I wanted to share my story as a reminder (especially to newer sitters). If it turns into Cinderella with a rake—don’t be afraid to walk away. I’ve also got stories of Bluebeard & Snow White that I’ll save for another time lol.
Thanks so much for reading. Feel free to DM me (I’ve left out a few details here for privacy) or drop a comment. I’d love to connect with others in the area or hear how you’ve navigated tricky sits with grace.