I personally don’t think the homeowner has any obligation to respond to everyone who applied, especially with any sort of ‘personalized message’ or feel like they should read through every application before deciding, unless they feel they want to do either. There are so many opportunities on here–don’t get too attached to any one of them, and if you don’t get picked for one, no biggie, moving on.
And as for changing the ‘wording’ of the messages so people don’t feel badly about not getting picked? That is kind of silly I think…it’s nothing personal.
I certainly have not been accepted for every sit for which I applied --great, personalized introductions, very detailed profile and over 20 excellent reviews. I can’t imagine any HO would look at all of that and think my husband and I were ‘bad’ candidates, but for whatever reason, we weren’t the ones. I don’ think it is so much a process of ‘rejecting’ who you don’t want but rather ‘choosing’ who you do.
I think a lot of people take ‘rejections’ way too personally. HO’s can only choose one person, and who knows what draws them to the person they pick, what they are looking for. Maybe the person had a really good reason to be in the area, like an event or having family nearby. Maybe they have a similar hobby or occupation as the HO and they felt a connection. Maybe the sitter looks like their favorite cousin and there was some sort of subconscious ‘draw’ to them.
We actually get picked for the majority of sits for which we apply, and I think this more relaxed attitude about it definitely helps.
Overall, I think people need to come at this from a more detached space and not take anything personally. Whether it’s a message from a homeowner on a housesitting site or anything else in life, the less we walk around feeling like people ‘owe’ us something, the happier we will be…that is my experience anyway!