Well folks, I need some support here. After several years and 20 5-star sits, I’ve encountered my first TH sit which I will vacate early and unhappily, a multi-week sit which I am leaving halfway through.
It’s all been much more high maintenance than it initially seemed. And I asked all the questions and even did an in-person handover with a day of overlap. I’ve communicated with the HO and put in more on this sit than ever before, but their tone has been consistently scolding, passive aggressive and negative. Not every day, some days are fine, which is why I’ve lasted this long. It’s why I figured just to stick it out. But this morning they overdid it again and I just can’t handle the stress of this situation, nor do I think it’s acceptable how the HO is talking to me.
They seem to not understand that expectations must be asked and agreed, not simply demanded and forced through when someone is already on the sit. Ther are some hidden expectations which have emerged for sure. Their communication has, at times, been negative and confusing, which they’ve tried to scold me for(?). As though they just assume I’m lying or trying to wrong them? I’m not, of course. I’m just a person with their own life and schedule who’s also trying to do everything they asked, and who is also a traveler in a city a million miles from home. I just feel a big lack of grace and understanding from this HO.
They also seem to have an issue with me having boundaries around my time and availability, and just other small negative “quirks” that are making things needlessly tense. I’m a good sitter, I love the pets, everything is mostly fine! It is my personal feeling that the HO is extremely anxious, tense, and possibly unhappy. But maybe this is just normal for them? I really don’t know. It is definitely NOT normal for TH and I don’t think this platform is a good match for them or what they seem to expect.
There have also been issues with one of the pets, who has been acting out in the initial weeks. I’ve slowly worked with this pet to establish better behavior and reliability from me so that he gets to know me and calms down and it’s been working. Whether this pet was upset over their HO leaving, rebelling against me arriving, or simply a bit misbehaved, I don’t know. But on many days of the first few weeks there was some issue. It was very stressful, but I handled it with full
communication, humor and grace. And now the pet has calmed down and softened a lot. It’s great to see.
As I said I have gone above and beyond my usual with this sit, have contemplated exiting a few times but stuck it out, have complied and tried to be nice and send cute content and reassure the HO over and over. But they are still….so rude. At seemingly random times and over things that are not a big deal at all. Just always passive aggressive and trying to subtly “force” me into giving them more and more attention or somehow seemingly accusing me of something or overcorrecting something that doesn’t need correcting.
Any support is appreciated. I’m now stuck finding last-minute accommodation in one of the most expensive cities in the world. I have another sit coming up in 3 weeks here. I am emotionally exhausted and I wish TH insurance protected against situations like this.