Hi there,
I am currently on a one month sit (third time for this person). Previous sits have gone well. Before I got here for the third sit, she told me that one of the dogs, sadly, had crossed the rainbow bridge. I appreciated her giving me a heads-up because it prepared me a little for the rest of the dogs who are grieving for their lost family member, and how to deal with the behavioral issues that have arisen.
That aside, last week (2 weeks into this one month sit), she drops a nonchalant bomb that her daughter will be coming to stay for one night, then in another conversation she said over the entire Easter weekend her daughter will be staying, and will need the car, and I should pick up her daughter. The HO never asked if I had Easter plans, or if I was available to pick up her daughter (who could easily take an Uber to the house from the local train station).
I feel trapped because she wasn’t transparent before she left, and waited two weeks into my sit to tell me. I feel very upset that she did this. I feel she thought because I returned for a third sit that certain boundaries can be crossed. If she had told me about her daughter coming and needing the car for all of the Easter weekend, I would not have done this sit because I chose this sit to be alone, and focus on personal matters. It makes me lose trust in her. Also, now I have to cancel my Easter plans because I was caught off guard by her lack of transparency, and didn’t know how to communicate my frustrations without rocking the boat, so to speak, while she dropped this unexpected news on me.
I’m sitting here wondering if I should say something now or wait until she returns. If anyone has some good suggestions, I would like to hear them please.